Is He Gay?

If you've been reading a post or two of mine, you might realize my life can be pretty random. Random is RIGHT.

Somehow I thought I've seen everything. The guy who shows up to the date really high. The guy who is broke, but trying to live beyond their means. The guy who lives with his sister.  But now, I believe something has outranked them all.

Enter ....How I Knew the Guy I Was Dating Was Gay

I hope to not have many instances of this in life, but I figure any warnings are worth passing on, right? Right.



[Please note, this all combined, indicates to me that he is Gay. There are a few of these that can be taken out of context, and not mean by themselves that a guy is Gay - but could just be questionable - don't go thinking every guy you date is Gay - but also know..it's possible :)].

Signs That He Might Be Gay

1. He always suggests the same restaurant(s) for dinner or drinks

2. He tells you that he doesn't want you to work out and that you're getting older, and there's no need to try and be younger, and a younger body again. 
3. Never has condoms, and for that simple reasoning, can't have sex - not when spending the weekend together, and not when bringing you on vacation. It becomes an excuse (more then one time). What kind of guy do you know comes up short for condoms on more then one occasion (or at all). A Gay one.
4. Gets an attitude when asked  if he has bought condoms
5. Uses any form of the phrase, "It's not about the sex".
6. Doesn't initiate sex at every single moment that he can get you alone. Especially when on vacation. No, it is not because he respects you. It's because he doesn't want to have sex with you.
7. He's really hun-go on wanting you to meet his family very quickly before meeting his friends. Consider this questionable if combined with #9. Otherwise consider it a good thing. :)
8. He's adamant about proving to you he has nothing hide without any provocation. (Ex: Randomly gives you his cell phone code because "to prove I have nothing to hide". Who said you did? Now, I know you do. Do a Gut Check.
9.  He tells you someone in his family is starting to think he is gay (Ex: being 40, Never been Married, and No Kids)
10. He tells you he has nothing against gay people, but doesn't think that "Gay" should be their tagline. They should just introduce themselves as "Fred" and not "Gay Fred".
11. Doesn't compliment you on your lingerie. Or your naked body for that matter.
12. Invites your good friend's boyfriend to go bike riding with him...and watch the sunset together...not as a double date (too bad I found this out after the fact! ha)
13. Has commented on a man's build more then once (especially if one of the men is your friend's boyfriend).
14. Tells you that women "fascinate him", but not you.

Hopefully this will be my last experience dating someone, I'm 90% sure is Gay, but maybe this suspicious behavior will help you know when to catch some red flags. Because at the end of the day, he is still hiding SOMETHING, if some or a lot of these things are happening in tandem. 

It saddens me that people can't just be who they are, and live their happily, but it's definitely not OK to bring someone else along in your misery.

Remember, to trust your gut!

Have you ever suspected a guy you dated was gay? Let us know in the comments!